108: It’s always OK to Pause. With Blanca Velazquez-Martin

Do you ever wonder if how you are disciplining helps your child's social-emotional growth?  Listen in to find ways you can positively impact your child's EQ. What exactly is science telling us about the benefits of adopting a gentle and respectful way of parenting? Today my guest answers some of these important questions. Click here for Show Notes and more from Jeanne-Marie, Your Parenting Mentor What We Talked About: Our willingness to grow when becoming parents Why Blanca choose to be a Montessori parent Understanding the positive evolution of respectful parenting Dan Siegel’s model The Brain in the Palm of the Hand Why timeouts don’t work and what actually happens to your child when sent in timeout The important role co-regulation plays with your children Learning to stay calm when you’re about to lose it benefits both you and your child Things to Remember: “Parenting is an everlasting willingness for growth and humility within our relationship with the young people in our lives. ” “Gentle and respectful parenting is not about just being permissive. It’s about having respect for the child’s phase of emotional and socioemotional development.” “No child can learn if they are feeling threatened, if they are feeling unsafe.” “The brain doesn't learn from a place of shame, children don't learn from a place of fear.” “Pausing is okay. It is okay to not do something immediately.” “The adult is the most important tool in the room.” “A tantrum is not an emergency.”  - Blanca Velazquez-Martin “Kids do well if they can.” - Dr. Ross Greene   Click here for Show Notes and more from Jeanne-Marie, Your Parenting Mentor