065: Managing Dating Expectations, Avoiding Resentment and Having Hard Conversations with Nathan Lang

We all know that money is one of the most common reasons for conflict in relationships, but how can we get a handle on it from the first date?    Today I’m diving into the male perspective so us ladies can get some REAL clarity on the age-old question, who should pay for the date? I’m joined by my guest Nathan Lang, a fitness trainer and coach who lays it all out on the table, feelings and all. Nathan describes his dating experiences and how he manages expectations when it comes to paying for his dates. We discuss how this small question can actually have huge impacts on the future of our relationships that can either lead to a better ability to have those harder conversations and more intimacy or a build-up of resentment and conflict.   WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT:   How men should also get to receive the gratification and enjoyment of letting the other person pay for a date How to navigate the often awkward moment of when the check hits the table! That the decisions you make in that moment of offering or not offering to pay can give you insight into how the rest of the relationship will play out and all of its dynamics How constantly fighting to hear our own perspectives can disrupt the flow of a connection  Some insider knowledge on how men actually feel when women pay for the date Do the dance! Offering then accepting makes men want to do it even more and show up for you as a man The damage the “Independent Woman” stereotype can often cause early on in dating and relationships How being willing to lean into the discomfort can lead to satisfying rewards like being truly seen, attracting the right person and a much deeper relationship   Connect with Nathan:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thebalibootyguy/ The Wanderlust Gym: http://wanderlustfitnessvillage.com/   Connect with me:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90  Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode