Rediscover Hope and Freedom After Betrayal Today

When Lynn Marie Cherry discovered her husband using pornography right after her second son was born, she experienced denial for several years. Eventually, she was able to use her emotions as a catalyst to move toward safety. Setting boundaries, learning self-care, becoming educated about trauma and abuse, and sharing her story helped Lynn to begin the journey to hope and freedom. Listen to The BTR.ORG Podcast for her full interview and read the full transcript below. You Can Find Hope and Freedom, Too At BTR.ORG, we believe that every woman can seek safety for herself by setting and maintaining effective boundaries. Safety is the foundation for hope and freedom. Don't feel bad. Everyone goes through this denial and pushing away of doubts. It's totally normal. Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery Denial is a powerful tool that our brains use to cope with devastating trauma. It is completely normal and understandable. However, if you are here, you have probably realized that something isn't quite right. Emotional Abuse Victims Find Hope and Freedom as They Shed Denial and Embrace Safety I walked over and opened the door and instantly felt this horrible flood of emotions. Shame and loss. It felt so tangible. I saw pornography on the computer screen. So now this thing that I think isn't quite right is right in front of my eyes. I shut the door and walked away and continued pretending and coping for another four years. Lynn Marie Cherry, author of Keep Walking: 50 Days to Hope and Freedom After Betrayal Choosing to see the betrayal and abuse for what it is can be extremely difficult for victims. It is important for women to find at least one safe person to share their journey with as they begin to shed the denial and begin making choices to protect themselves from abuse. Only when women choose to shed denial, can hope and freedom begin to flood into their lives.  Hope and Freedom Come as Victims Find Safety There is peace available and regardless of what ends up happening in your marriage, there is a way for you to move forward...there is a life for you beyond the pain and trauma being experienced right now. Lynn Marie Cherry, author of Keep Walking: 50 Days to Hope and Freedom After Betrayal BTR.ORG Is Here For You You are not alone on your journey to hope and freedom. Consider attending a BTR.ORG Group Session today. Full Transcript: Anne (00:00): Today I have Lynn Marie Cherry, who is an engaging speaker and the author of "Keep Walking: 40 Days to Hope and Freedom After Betrayal." Welcome, Lynn. Lynn (00:10): Thank you so much for having me. Anne (00:12): So, Lynn, you decided to share your betrayal story by writing a book. Why did you decide to write about your story? "It's the book you don't dream of writing when you're a little girl" Lynn (00:22): It's the book you don't dream of writing when you're a little girl in sixth grade thinking you'd like to write someday. Yeah, the book really was birthed out of my journey and the pain that I experienced. It was so difficult and so altering, but at the same time, I felt like I found a way through. I knew it was something that I had to share, and I knew early on in the journey that I would share my story, that my husband and I would both talk about it. So that's kind of how the book came to be. But just going back to our story, it's like the slowest, most drawn-out discovery story you've ever heard. We were married in 1991, and I had a feeling really early, even on my honeymoon, something's not right, something's not quite right, but at the same time, just thinking, oh,