Can You Please Talk to My Trauma? Insights on Healing from Karlee Holden on The Divorce and Beyond Podcast #336

Karlee Holden joins Susan Guthrie for a deeply personal and insightful discussion of uncovering, exploring, and healing the trauma bonds that shape us. Karlee is a Trauma Practitioner, helping people with their trauma and mental and physical health for twenty years.  Karlee explains that healing from trauma is not just talking about your problems; it's unwinding the fight-flight response from the nervous system and the body by developing boundaries. In this episode, Susan and Karlee discuss the importance of establishing boundaries, understanding unhealthy relationships and family patterns, and ultimately unwinding what has been holding us back from being our truest selves.  You’ll hear: Why ignoring trauma only perpetuates its effects and leads to more stress. Setting healthy boundaries is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships. “Healthy boundaries are essential for our mental and emotional well-being." How to cultivate awareness of your emotions and triggers, and practice self-regulation to manage stress and anxiety. "Focus on what you can control. You can't control the external circumstances, but you can control your responses, behaviors, and self-care practices." Seek support. You can seek support from therapists, counselors, or support groups when dealing with trauma and emotional challenges. **************************************** About this week's special guest: Karlee Holden Karlee Holden is the Author of the Can You Please Talk To My...Book Series. She is a Trauma Practitioner, helping people with their trauma and mental and physical health for twenty years. Karlee’s passion is to share what she wishes she had known at the height of her trauma and all she has learned. Karlee’s books:Can you please talk to my trauma: https://amzn.to/4bTp8lc Can you please talk to my girlfriend: https://amzn.to/3Tl6E64Karlee’s website: https://www.karleeholden.com/ Karlee on Instagram: http://instagram.com/Karlee.holden Karlee on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/karleeholdenpodcast **************************************** Resources mentioned in this episode: Recommended Reading and Audible: Divorce & Beyond is now on Audible, and to celebrate, we've got a special offer: One Month Free of Audible Plus! Why Audible? Because we know that sometimes, you don’t want a book on display for everyone to see. Whether for privacy or convenience, listening to books, like podcasts, is a great solution. And that's where Audible shines! Not only can you enjoy our episodes on Audible, but also a wide selection of books authored by our expert guests, like Christina McGhee's 'Parenting Apart' and Bill Eddy's 'BIFF' and 'Splitting.' Say 'Alexa, play The Divorce & Beyond Podcast' and start listening to the podcast on your Amazon-Alexa-supported device!  Check out Divorce and Beyond’s recommended reading. And explore a world of audiobooks and music on Audible for a whole month, absolutely free! **************************************** THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR:  HEADSPACE Hello, Divorce & Beyond family! We've teamed up with Headspace to guide you towards better mental health. With Headspace's meditation, mindfulness tools, and mental health support, you're set for a happier, healthier you. Sign up through our exclusive link for free two weeks of Headspace membership. Don't miss out on this opportunity to embrace well-being. ********************************************************************* SPONSORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES ARE AVAILABLE!  https://divorcebeyond.com/Sponsorship-Info ******************************************************************* MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: SUSAN GUTHRIE®, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond® Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  Susan is the Vice Chair of the American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution and is a sought-after keynote speaker, business and practice consultant, coach and trainer. You