Ep96: Breaking Trauma Responses by Standing Up For Yourself

Have you ever been in a situation where your rights, properties, or boundaries are being blatantly disrespected and abused? How did you respond? What were the first thoughts you had on how you should respond? In this episode, Heather shares her experience with people who stole and disrespected her intellectual property, and how she reacted to it. She will share why you need to stand up for yourself and give a firm “NO” to people who disrespect you. Heather will talk about how abusers see themselves and how standing up for yourself is the most helpful thing you can do for them. She will also talk about fawning and how this trauma response work. This short and powerful podcast is filled with wisdom, truth, and tough love, perfect for you who need to know that standing up for yourself is never mean and does not make you a bad person.   Listen to the Episode Now: 0:26 Heather asks a powerful question and shares her personal experience with responding to her abuser and standing up for herself. 01:25 How do abusers see themselves versus how they see you when you stop them from abusing you. 03:51 How do you respond when your rights, property, boundaries, or sovereignty are violated? 05:01 Why do you need to stand up for yourself when you are disrespected? 06:37 What is fawning and why should you be aware of this trauma response?   Soul Stirring Quotes: “Abusers always make themselves the victim. Abusers are always self-obsessed. They lack the ability to see their own wrongdoing, even in the face of irrefutable evidence.” “The trauma response from our childhood is why we stay silent and why we don't stand up for ourselves.” “You are not a bad person for acting with force, with power. You are allowed to do that.” “You have a moral, spiritual, and ethical obligation to stand up for yourself.” “There's nothing spiritual about letting people shit on you. There's nothing soulful about allowing yourself to be disrespected.” “I'm going to be the one person who's going to draw a line in the sand and teach your sorry ass a lesson today.” “Stand up for yourself. Notice your trauma responses, notice how you placate and feel responsible for fawning.” “Call people out on the abuse so that they can grow and learn to stop hurting other people.” “Get out there, stand up for yourself. You got this.”   Links Mentioned: Join The Atmana Intuitive Coach Collective Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/atmanaintuitivecoachcollective  Join the next Live Your Purpose, Launch Your Practice Workshop here: http://www.intuitivecoachlaunch.com/