#220 "My Kids Are Fighting So Much!" How to Put and End to Fighting -- For Good

"I'm feeling sooooo burnt out of motherhood... My kids are fighting so much. Last week we did a 'no fighting' challenge for 7 days. They did pretty well and each got a prize.This week has been a total dumpster fire. I keep circling back to me. Making sure I am good, but I'm just not. I feel so drained at the end of my day after so much fighting. Any advice?"Conflict is often seen as an unavoidable part of family life—whether it’s sibling rivalry, marital disagreements, or parenting struggles. But what if fighting isn’t natural, just common? In this episode, Greg and Rachel Denning challenge the belief that conflict is inevitable and share the deeper truth: fighting stems from unmet needs. They explore how going upstream to address the root causes of family tension leads to lasting peace and cooperation. Tune in to discover the Pyramid of Peace framework, the power of proactive parenting, and why intentional action—not just hoping for the best—is the key to a thriving family life.Fighting is exhausting -- mentally, emotionally, and physically. It takes away from family and personal productivity and peace. How do we best handle it and put an end to it -- for good? And is it actually possible?In this episode, we outline the strategies we use from the Pyramid of Peace to 'help things go right' in order to prevent problems and fighting AND how to 'fix what's gone wrong' when fighting actually occurs (which is rare when you spend 80-90% of your time and energy 'helping things go right'.)We'll show you how to basically eliminate fighting in your family -- for good -- in a realistic approach that focuses on conflict resolution -- because conflicts will arise, but that doesn't mean they have to turn into fights.If your kids fight at all, then you will want to listen to this insightful episode to understand WHY they are fighting and how to prevent it in a healthy, holistic way.Resolving conflicts at home and in our families is the beginning of resolving conflicts in the world. Learn how to have more familial peace this week and gain tools for increasing peace in your communities.Greg and Rachel dive deep into the topic of fighting—between siblings, in marriages, and within families. They emphasize that fighting is not a natural state, but rather a symptom of unmet needs. Using the Pyramid of Peace model, they explain why focusing on fixing what’s "gone wrong" is ineffective and how the real solution lies in helping things go right.The episode covers:Why conflict isn’t inevitable and how unmet needs drive misbehaviorHow parents can "go upstream" to prevent fights before they startThe difference between what’s common and what’s natural in family dynamicsWhy most parenting advice focuses on the wrong part of the problemHow to take proactive, intentional action to create peace at homeThrough personal stories, practical insights, and a passionate call to action, Greg and Rachel offer a mindset shift that empowers parents to build a peaceful, cooperative home—one where fighting is no longer the norm.🎧 Tune in now to transform the way you approach family conflict and start fostering lasting harmony in your home.--------- RESOURCES:Let us help you in your extraordinary family life journey.Rachel’s ⁠⁠⁠Must-Read Booklist for Well-Read Moms⁠⁠ + FREE Majesty of Calmness⁠Greg's ⁠⁠⁠Recommended Reading List for Parents & Youth⁠⁠⁠JOIN GREG'S 90-DAY HEALTH & FITNESS CHALLENGE! Get Rachel's⁠⁠Family Systems & Charts⁠⁠Join the ⁠⁠28-Day Challenge⁠⁠ for MomsJoin the Formidable Family Man Masterclass and TribeJoin Greg’s 7-Day Challenge Follow us on Instagram:⁠@worldschoolfamily⁠ or⁠@greg.denning⁠Gather with us at the⁠World School Family (Beach & Farm) Resort⁠ in PortugalRead our reviews here: https://podcast.extraordinaryfamilylife.com/reviews/ Send in a voice message: https://podcast.extraordinaryfamilylife.com/voicemail/