“We See Your Pain” : Illuminating Suicide with Nyana Sabharwal

Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes Produced by J’aime Rothbard Released on Sep 26, 2023 As more and more of us are chilled by the rapidly expanding shadow of social isolation, we invite you to join us for a rich conversation that weaves one woman’s personal story of bereavement by suicide into broader perspectives. In this episode, Nyana delves deep into the heart of Suicide Prevention, Intervention and Postvention. The stories she shares demonstrate Compassionate Inquiry’s profound ability to unlock human authenticity and potential, while simultaneously releasing pain. We explore: Cultural stigmas that can suppress the utilization of mental health support services Understanding pain as an experience, as opposed to as an identity Safe spaces where people can share their experiences without fear of judgment Healing as a non-linear approach The roles of authentic connections, patience and self-compassion Join us on this inspiring journey of deep insight and healing. Imagine experiencing the warmth of genuine connection and finding solace in a space where you are heard without judgment. For those of us supporting loved ones bereaved by suicide, Nyana provides invaluable guidance on how to truly be there for them—by listening deeply and holding space for their grief with compassion and empathy.  Nyana Sabharwal  Trauma Psychotherapist Suicide First Responder The founder of Safe Space, a trauma and healing organization, based in Mumbai, India, she holds a masters in Psychology and Neuroscience plus is trained in; Compassionate Inquiry®, Internal Family Systems, Trauma, and Suicide First Response. Nyana’s professional path was directed by her own trauma healing journey. Being a suicide loss survivor adds a deeply personal dimension to her work. Her commitment to making sense of what happened to her led her to integrate the ancient wisdom of meditation and Kundalini Yoga into her work of healing the mind, body and soul. Her support group for suicide bereavement, ”We Hear You,” invites people to deal with both their loss, and their need to process grief in all its unique dimension.  Having trained several doctors, psychiatrists, psychologists and families in Suicide First Response and trauma. It is Nana’s commitment to give people who have suffered the profound loss of a loved one to suicide, a place where they can feel safe. After supporting people to understand and heal their trauma, grief and suicidality, Nyana facilitates their ability to reimagine and recover their true selves and uncover their meaning and purpose in living. Resources: Websites: Professional websiteCompassionate Inquiry Practitioner Profile   Quotes: “Medication alone didn’t work, and neither did therapy. It was only after I added meditation to calm the mind, yoga to heal trauma in the body, and chakra work to release blocked trauma energy – that I finally started to find myself again.”  - Nyana Sabharwal “Healing is a journey and the company matters.” - Nyana Sabharwal “The part of you that loves you more than anything else has created roadblocks to lead you to yourself. You are not going in the right direction unless there is something pricking you in the side, telling you, “Look here! This way!” That part of you loves you so much that it doesn't want you to lose the chance.” - A H Almaas Relevant Links: Suicide First AidFrom Grief to Hope Report Support for Suicide Loss Survivors Podcast: “The rates of loneliness, depression and suicide are rising, leading to ‘deaths of despair” Gabor Maté [when speaking of the modern epidemic of isolation] cites statistics that show that: - loneliness doubles every 10 years - the impact of loneliness on physical health is equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a day.  Gabor Maté’s NPR Interview with Peter O’Dowd, “The Myth of Normal' | Book of the Day   Books: The Myth of Normal by Gabor Maté & Daniel Maté In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, by Gabor Maté My Life Without Jehan by Liana Mistry (on suicide loss) Diamond Heart Series by A H Almaas Statistics: ​​Suicide is the 10th-leading cause of mortality in the United States and … experts are bringing their unique skills to bear on the problem…. a multidisciplinary effort, involving psychiatrists, emergency room physicians, social workers, public health experts, pediatricians, school counselors, teachers and many others. But psychology is notable for its wide-ranging expertise—and that diverse expertise is a natural fit for the field of suicide prevention. Source: American Psychological Association 2019 Suicide rates increased 37% between 2000-2018 and decreased 5% between 2018-2020. Suicide rates returned to their peak in 2022. Over 49,000 people died by suicide in 2022 1 death every 11 minutes Many adults think about suicide or attempt suicide 13.2 million seriously thought about suicide 3.8 million made a plan for suicide 1.6 million attempted suicide Groups with disproportionately high rates of suicide include. American/Alaskan Indigenous: 27.1 per 100,000 population Caucasians: 17.6 per 100,000 population Hawaiian/Pacific Island Indigenous: 14.3 per 100,000 population Multiracial: 10.5 per 100,000 population Black: 9.0 per 100,000 population Hispanic: 8.1 per 100,000 population   Source: CDC Suicide Data and Statistics