Busting Boredom in the Bedroom with Dr. Shannon Chavez

Sherry and Carla start this week with a Love Fix question about how to ease the feeling of emptiness, no matter what relationship you are in. They discuss the difference between feeling empty and feeling as though something is missing, and how self love is the remedy for both. Then, they welcome Dr. Shannon Chavez, Licensed Clinical Psychologist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. Shannon has a booming private practice, SHAPE (Sexual Health and Pleasure Enhancement) Center in Beverly Hills, and helps individuals and couples with integrating sexuality and spirituality, sex education, and sexual discovery towards personal growth. Shannon seeks to bridge the gap between the freedom of embracing sexuality and the more conservative ideals that may have been around a more traditional upbringing.    What You’ll Hear In This Episode:   A Love Fix question about feeling empty no matter what relationship there is.   How to know when it’s time to see a therapist when it comes to your sexual questions and concerns.  How Shannon started her career as a Clinical Psychologist, and became a nationally recognized expert in the media.  A few of the most common sexual concerns Shannon hears time and time again, and why we should normalize the fact that so many people feel this way.  Shannon’s belief that sex addiction can also be tied to anxiety disorders, feeling out of control, emotional disregulation, and untreated childhood wounds.  More about Shannon’s SHAPE Center and how it can help both individuals and couples, along with resources from Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence. Couples often come to Shannon feeling a lack of communication, stuck, lacking desire, and unsure what to do next.  Why we should think of masturbation as an act of self exploration and self care instead of feeling shame or judgement towards it. If Shannon sees sexual concerns varying between populations and age demographics.  How we are raised has a lot to do with how we function sexually.   Are there red flags when it comes to sex and dating that we should take note of?  What does it mean to really be sexually compatible?  Tweetables: “Trust your gut instinct. You’ll know when you are ready.” - Shannon  We have to be able to connect to your core before you can really connect with someone else. - Sherry “Everything is learned, so you are mirroring, mimicking and absorbing your parents behavior.” - Shannon What compatibility issues really are is someone not really open to feedback.” - Shannon  “It starts with intimacy of self.” - Shannon  “I want people to really enhance and find pleasure about. That is what erotism and sexuality is all about.” - Shannon “Think of masturbation as self exploration and self care.” - Shannon “Masturbation isn’t about just getting off or having an orgasm, but it’s really taking care of your body on such a mind, body, heart level.” - Shannon “See the body as a vehicle for pleasure.” - Shannon   Connect with Us!   The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership    The Love Fix Relationship Quiz     Get professional online counseling with BetterHelp by clicking here. Thanks to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode.   Find Out More:    Sherry Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents    Join Sherry’s FREE 5-day Codependency and Toxic Relationship Transformation Challenge beginning April 12 https://sherrygaba.lpages.co/5-day-challenge/    Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp    Dr. Shannon Chavez  Website | Instagram | Facebook | Media Appearances