Dealing with Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Styles, Betrayal, and Regulating Your Nervous System with Dr. Zoe Shaw

Sherry and Carla send a shout-out to their fantastic listeners from Sweden before taking a Love Fix Question from a listener who dislikes their boyfriend's family and is overwhelmed by their gossipy nature. They then welcome Dr. Zoe Shaw, a licensed psychotherapist, author, speaker, podcast host, relationship coach, and fitness enthusiast. She specializes in helping women who struggle with difficult relationships, particularly their relationship with themselves. Dr. Zoe offers virtual therapy, coaching services, and programs using a blend of psychology, faith, and feminism. She has authored the Ask Dr. Zoe column in the Grit and Grace Project, and the book "A Year of Self-Care."   Connect with Us! The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Get 1:1 Dating & Relationship Coaching The Love Fix Relationship Quiz   Sherry Sign up for my Free Masterclass - Recognize and Recover from the Devalue and Discard Stages of Narcissistic Abuse    Sign up for your FREE strategy call for life coaching/psychotherapy with Sherry Gaba, Psychotherapist, Life Coach & Author    Join Sherry’s Inner Circle for healing from Narcissistic Abuse, Codependency, and Love Addiction   Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts  "I love Sherry and Carla and The Love Fix!”-  If that sounds like you, please consider the rating and reviewing our show! Scroll down to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Also, if you haven’t done so already, follow the podcast.    Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp   Dr. Zoe Website | A Year of Self Care    Sign up to be in the TDR database: https://www.threedayrule.com/CarlaRomo   Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love    Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.   What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Why is it important to know our own attachment style, and recognize the attachment style of our partner as well? As someone with anxious attachment, what can someone do to regulate their nervous system when they feel as though their partner is pulling away? How someone can better deal with an avoidant partner. For someone with anxious attachment, creating a secure and healthy relationship can require some intentional effort. Suggestions might include practicing self-soothing techniques, setting boundaries, and seeking support from a therapist or trusted friend. If you feel like your partner is keeping secrets, it's important to approach the situation with curiosity and compassion. Rather than jumping to conclusions or assumptions, try to have an open and honest conversation about your concerns. Dr. Zoe shares her suggestions for knowing if the expected and natural ups and downs in a relationship are healthy. What if you feel like your partner is secret-keeping? When betrayal occurs in a relationship, it’s up to both parties to put in the work. More from Dr. Zoe’s work, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.   Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.