How Healthy People Heal From Toxic People: Debra Fileta

At the top of the show, Sherry and Carla talk about the different forms that meditation can come in, and then welcome Licensed Professional Counselor and Relationship Expert Debra Fileta. Debra is also the host of the Love + Relationships podcast, and author of many popular books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, and Are You Really Okay? She discusses focusing on your own health to make your relationship better, a healthy way to move on from a toxic person, and the power of healing in a group or community.   What You’ll Hear In This Episode:   How do Sherry and Carla each meditate, and in what ways can you incorporate mindfulness into your life? A Love Fix question about what to do when your ex moves on and it makes you jealous. More about the Love Fix Program, set to launch soon! Debra shares her tips from working with hundreds of people on taking care of yourself from a holistic standpoint, which will help us attract another healthy person. If you are healthy, can you still attract a toxic person? Interested in connecting with Debra for some True Love dating advice? More info on how to link up with her, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence. When we focus more on our own health, our relationships naturally benefit. Debra’s advice for those who tend to overgive in a relationship. Debra describes how the “better than average” effect can lead us to assume we are actually doing better than we really are. How can groups and finding a community help us? Debra’s work asks the reader to do an audit of themselves and do regular “check-ups”.   Tweetables: “The process of becoming healthy is also learning to identify toxicity.” - Debra “I'm thinking, what if we were to change the narrative and say, counseling is like going to the gym to work out your muscles? You would never shame someone for going to the gym, you would High Five them!” - Debra “When you begin to get healthy, it changes the dynamic of the relationship, even if that means I begin to set more boundaries.” - Debra “The difference between a healthy person and an unhealthy person is that a healthy person will recognize a crappy person much faster than an unhealthy person.” - Debra   Connect with Us!   The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Become a Member - Codependency Special (2020) - Wake Up Recovery  - $1 trial membership The Love Fix Relationship Quiz     Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/    Find Out More:    Sherry Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships     Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp    Debra Fileta Website | Books|Love and Relationships Podcast | Instagram  Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.  Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.