Self Recovery and Codependent Behaviors with Nancy Johnston

It’s all about codependency this week as Carla and Sherry start the episode with a Love Fix question about how to grow even further in your relationship as you are in codependency recovery and in therapy. They then welcome Nancy L. Johnson, a Licensed Professional Counselor and Licensed substance abuse treatment practitioner in private practice in Lexington, VA. Nancy gives some sage insight from her over 44 years of clinical experience on bringing awareness to our patterns, and why she prefers to look at codependent behaviors on a continuum. Nancy also talks about self-recovery, self-attunement, and how we can begin looking internally for validation.    Connect with Us! The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership Get 1:1 Dating & Relationship Coaching  The Love Fix Relationship Quiz   Sherry Break Free from Narcissist Abuse     Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp   Sign up to be in TDR database: https://www.threedayrule.com/CarlaRomo   Nancy Johnston  Website | Books | Facebook    Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.   Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.   What You’ll Hear In This Episode:  There are red flags, and it’s important to explore them and follow your gut, but don’t look for them, because you can always find a red flag.  Nancy discusses how we can differentiate between codependency in general and how it relates to someone who’s an addict or alcoholic.  Why Nancy defines codependency itself as a loss of self in someone else.  Gain access to Nancy’s book Disentangle and her events, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence. Codependency is about being externally focused and the core recovery dynamic is becoming aware of the external focus and bringing it back to the self.  How is self-recovery different from self-care?  Nancy describes some behaviors that fall under a codependency continuum.  Nancy discusses Parts Work and Internal Family Systems and how they can help us bring awareness to different parts of ourselves and how we can feel multiple ways about a situation.