Trauma Bonding, Relational Trauma, and Self-Love with Dr. Heidi Green

Sherry and Carla share their intentions for the New Year and take a Love Fix question about how to know where to even begin where there are so many trauma treatments out there. Then, they welcome Clinical Psychologist, Author, and Trauma Specialist Dr. Heidi Green. She discusses why it’s so important to recognize and work on our trauma, and how every one of us has some type of trauma from our experience with family or just being out in the world. Dr. Heidi also talks with Carla and Sherry about how we project our trauma onto romantic relationships, trauma bonding, and what anxious and avoidants really need from each other to heal and grow.    What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Sherry and Carla set their intentions for 2022. What are yours?  A Love Fix Question: where do you even begin when looking for trauma treatment and therapists?  Dr. Heidi talks about the misconception that trauma is reserved for big events. If you’ve made it to adulthood, you’ve definitely survived some trauma.  Why does everyone have at least some element of trauma, and how do we recognize it?  What is relational trauma?  How does experiencing infidelity and betrayal in our relationships affect us, whether we intend to stay in the relationship or find a new partner?  How does trauma change the way we see everything and create a lens through which we see the world from?  Find out more about Heidi’s workshops and services, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence. How do the relationships that we have early in life affect us in our attachment style early on?  What do anxious and avoidant attachment styles really need from one another?  How can you start to build a secure attachment with yourself and others, even if you had a traumatic upbringing?  How to recognize your negative core beliefs and trauma bonding situations.   Tweetables:  “If I were to really think about it, the intention of life is always to keep coming back to serenity.” - Carla  “We find people who are about as emotionally dysfunctional as we are.” - Heidi  “Trauma changes the way that we see everything.” - Heidi  “If you’ve made it to adulthood, you’ve definitely survived some trauma.” - Heidi  “It's almost like you put on these lenses, these trauma lenses, and now this is what you see the world through. Trauma changes the way that we see everything.” - Heidi  “It’s your job as the anxious person to not keep seeking safety from your avoidant partner. It’s to seek safety within yourself.” - Heidi  “When you start trusting yourself and stop second-guessing yourself and have that relationship, you have a much better chance of finding someone with a secure attachment.” - Sherry     Connect with Us! The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Become a Member - Codependency Special - Wake Up Recovery  - $1 trial membership Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group  The Love Fix Relationship Quiz   Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/    Holiday Special: Sign up for Sherry’s Inner Circle for 1/2 off and get 6 months FREE!   Find Out More:    Sherry Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships | Sherry Gaba’s Coaching Packages   Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp   Dr. Heidi Green Website | Twitter | Facebook | Instagram | The Path to Self Love and World Domination   Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.  Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.