Why Our Past Dating History Doesn’t Predict The Future with Laura Behnke

Sherry and Carla kick off the show with a Love Fix Question about dealing with pressure in your late 30’s and early 40’s about having children, especially when you aren’t sure what you really want. Then, they welcome Laura Behnke, writer, speaker, coach, and founder of The Life Actually company and podcast. Laura is a 16 year TV veteran and anchor, and left the business to follow her passion for supporting and empowering women in all phases of their life. Laura shares how she learned to stop “shoulding” on herself and no longer accept breadcrumbs, and why our past dating history doesn’t always predict our future. She talks with Sherry and Carla about throwing away the rules and living a life that’s authentically yours, no matter what it looks like to the outside world.   What You’ll Hear In This Episode: A Love Fix Question — not sure if you want kids? How to untangle what you want your true future to be vs. what pressure society is putting on you. Are you creating stories in your head? How to get more into reality and grounded in your habits, thoughts, and actions. Laura shares her story of her husband being her first real boyfriend, and what she learned about herself in the experience. Why are dating rules unfair and unrealistic? Join The Life Actually community, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence. Remember — you are perfectly loveable at all points across your journey and evolution. What are some of the biggest ‘shoulds’ in society that cause us to be a certain way? How is the way we mold ourselves to fit in society connected to codependency?   Tweetables: “We rarely ask, what do I want? What do I desire?” - Sherry “We have to remember, dating has become an industry. There are people who want to make money off your dating experience.” - Laura “I believe self love is an ongoing journey. You never master it, it’s always evolving.” - Carla “It’s all intertwined with codependency. It’s this pressure to be something to please others and to please society to fit in and feel less alone.” - Laura “At the end of the day, whatever works between the two of you is actually what is important. Otherwise, you get into the whole codependency stuff and living for other people.” - Carla “Make the rules yourself.” - Carla   Connect with Us! The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Become a Member - Codependency Special - Wake Up Recovery  - $1 trial membership Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group  The Love Fix Relationship Quiz   Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/    Find Out More:    Sherry Psychotherapy Life Coaching Sherry Gaba Westlake Village  | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships | Sherry Gaba’s Coaching Packages   Gain access to Sherry’s FREE ebooks for codependency, love addiction, or narcissistic abuse. https://relationship-quizzes.com/    Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp   Laura Behnke:  Website | Instagram | Podcast    Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.  Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.