Ask Justin 3: Non-Monogamy, BDSM, arousal and desire

This weeks' Culture Sex Relationships is the 3rd Ask Justin. You send your questions and I try and give great advice. There are three questions this week. One on sex discrepancies and opening up a relationship to non-monogamy. Second is about BDSM and the risks of practising it when you have a straight laced job. The third one is about disentangling arousal and desire and the role of the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system. This last one contains a mention of sexual assault but I don't go into any detail or specifics. If you like this show and would like some more of it, please considering supporting the show on Patreon. patreon.com/culturesexrelationships From just £1 a month would be a great help. If you can afford more so that I can keep as much as this free for others that can't, that would be even better. Thank you! Here are some links I mention For the user guide zines check out megjohnandjustin.com/publications Here's our book https://uk.bookshop.org/books/a-practical-guide-to-sex-finally-helpful-sex-advice/9781785783876 Here's the BDSM survey I mentioned http://cdn.yougov.com/cumulus_uploads/document/h38baes6ei/InternalResults_150209_BDSM_Website.pdf The topping and bottoming books are by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy http://www.dossieeaston.com/books.html I also mention the Idiot Brain by Dean Burnett, which is great https://uk.bookshop.org/books/the-idiot-brain-a-neuroscientist-explains-what-your-head-is-really-up-to/9781783350827?aid=5561 Meg-John's work on trauma is excellent https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/self/trauma-and-the-body-basics/