008 - How to Start Talking About Sex Beyond "The Talk"

We both believe strongly in talking about sex a lot with our kids. We HOPE this keeps the doors open so they can talk with us about anything they come across. This episode will help you to know where to begin.    Why you and your daughter should talk about sex a lot together.  If you don't talk with her about sex, she'll find her answers somewhere else. Use books to help if needed  At least start talking about the basics of consent.  Your daughter is not an object - does she know this?  Practice consent at home. Prepare for different situations Define your values around sex with your daughter. Do you believe in abstinence?  Have you defined abstinence with your daughter? Do you know why you have the values you have? Does she? Never use shame The importance of using correct anatomical words as well as the importance of knowing the slang words. You shouldn't feel uncomfortable using correct anatomical words. Be a source your daughter can use when she hears words at school. RESOURCES: Girls & Sex by Peggy Orenstein https://www.amazon.com/Girls-Sex-Navigating-Complicated-Landscape/dp/B01AKR8GSU/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=girls+%26+sex&qid=1588476724&s=books&sr=1-2 A Better Way to Teach Kids About Sex by Padilla-Walker, Dean M. Busby, Chelom E. Leavitt, and Jason S. Carroll  https://www.amazon.com/Better-Way-Teach-Kids-About/dp/1629723738/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1588476745&sr=8-1 30 Days of Sex Talks by Educate Empower Kids https://www.amazon.com/Days-Sex-Talks-Ages-Empowering/dp/1733604642/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1588476771&sr=8-2 Talk With Your Kids: Teaching Kids Consent Ages 1-21 https://www.talkwithyourkids.org/lets-talk-about/healthy-sex-talk-teaching-kids-consent-ages-1-21.html Net Nanny: The Detrimental Effects of Pornography on Small Children https://www.netnanny.com/blog/the-detrimental-effects-of-pornography-on-small-children @kirstinbhodson (Instagram) @vaginapopupbook (Instagram) Huffington Post: Parenting in the Digital Age of Pornography https://www.huffpost.com/entry/parenting-in-the-digital-age-of-pornography_b_9301802