027 - Why We Hate Our Pictures

It’s a pretty common problem… We have a picture taken of us, and we think we look fine when it’s being taken, and then we view the picture later, and we're shocked! "That’s what I look like?!" Let's help our daughters understand why this happens and how to get comfortable with pictures of themselves (and maybe us moms can learn a little about this too?). ⁠ The science behind why we don't like our pictures Self-enhancement bias Mere exposure effect Confirmation bias How to get comfortable with pictures of ourselves Use mere exposure effect to your advantage Cultivate happiness while pictures are being taken Understand the power of lenses, dimensions, and angles. Why selfies are dangerous Taking selfies is normal Be aware what category you're falling under when you take/post a selfie If you notice unhealthy patterns, look for what emotional needs you need met Don't take stupid, dangerous selfies on cliffs :)  Resources Madeleine A. Fugère Ph.D (expertise is attraction and romantic relationships)., Why Seeing Photos of Ourselves Disappoints Us, https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dating-and-mating/201710/why-seeing-photos-ourselves-disappoints-us Edith Leigh, How to LIke Your Photos, https://www.edithleighphotography.nz/post/how-to-like-your-photos Krishna, Ooo St. Lou Studios, The Science of the Selfie No You don’t Really Look LIke that, https://oohstloustudios.com/the-science-of-the-selfie-no-you-dont-really-look-like-that Dangerous Selfies, https://www.cbsnews.com/pictures/dangerous-selfies/#:~:text=Between%202011%20and%202017%2C%20259,risky%20selfies%20like%20this%20one Dalvin Brown, USA Today, Why You Take Selfies and How It’s Dangerous, https://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/2019/05/22/why-you-take-selfies-and-how-its-dangerous/3691366002/ Diana Alonso, The Societal Obsession with Selfies (and what’s wrong with it) https://www.psychalive.org/obsession-with-selfies/ Parent Co., The Dangers of Selfie Culture and How You Can Help Your Kids https://www.parent.com/the-dangers-of-selfie-culture-and-how-you-can-help-your-kids/