029 - Setting Boundaries, Part 1

Boundaries are so important. And can be so hard! Because boundaries are so vital, we have split this topic into a 2-part series. Part 1 will focus on how parents can set boundaries with their teen. Part 2 will focus on how teens can set boundaries in their own life.   The basics of setting up boundaries How boundaries benefit teens (even if they won't admit it!) Do preparation work before talking with your teen Tips for how to set up boundaries How to deal with boundary testing Be firm and consistent Give respect to get respect Keys to enforcing consequences Remember that pushing boundaries is normal teen behavior (and healthy developmentally!)  If they break the agreed-upon deal: Reiterate the deal broken Allow natural consequences If natural consequences don't apply, cooperatively decide on a fitting consequence Follow through (so hard!) Provide positive reinforcement when they do comply Spend time talking about a ton of other things besides boundaries   Resources: Set realistic boundaries with your teenager https://parents.au.reachout.com/skills-to-build/connecting-and-communicating/things-to-try-building-trust/set-realistic-boundaries-with-your-teenager Stephanie Klindt, Marriage and Family Therapist Intern: 10 Way to Set  Appropriate Boundaries with Teens http://teentherapycentersv.org/2014/12/30/10-ways-to-set-appropriate-boundaries-with-teens/