087: Coaching with Lian: How to Handle Swearing and Hitting

In this episode, Lian joins me for a coaching call to discuss the challenges she’s facing with her four-year-old son.   Her son has been using swearing to communicate his frustration and big feelings. Lian also shares how his frustration often escalates from mean words to physical aggression.   I give her tips and strategies to help transform her son’s approach and behavior, and we make a plan for Lian and her husband moving forward. Be sure to listen in until the end to hear our check in.   We go into: [0:50] What to do if your child uses profanity excessively  [3:50] How Lian has tried putting limits on this issue so far [6:10] Why we can't ignore troubling behavior [10:40] What to do if the behavior isn't due to lack of attention [12:50] The shame we feel as parents when our kids do something  humiliating  [18:10] The 'good' vs. 'bad' parent dichotomy [20:45] Why the naughty behavior hasn't crossed over into other areas of Lian's son life [23:50] How to handle your kid hitting you [30:45] Tips for helping your child empty their emotional backpack [36:05] How hard parenting really is on a marriage [38:00] Check in with Lian [42:15] Tips for empathizing with our kids [48:00] Keeping an aggression log [56:30] Why we should never ignore a child when they're upset Resources mentioned in this episode FREE How to Stop Yelling Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Book coaching or a free consult: www.sarahrosensweet.com/coaching  Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Playful Parenting by Larry Cohen: https://amzn.to/3Dj49IY  Raising Human Beings by Ross Greene: https://amzn.to/3yvOgg6     Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call