Quit Asking “Why is This Happening?”

At the beginning of a coaching session, I do a quick “check-in” to see what we need to accomplish in that session. Since coaching is all about moving forward and making progress, I want to make sure we are moving forward toward client success. But what I often hear instead is, “I want to know why this is happening (the marriage crisis).” I get it. There is something about knowing why that is somehow satisfying, if not particularly helpful. What is even more interesting, though, is how often the same client can return to this very question. If I hear the question one time, we can answer it and move forward. But if I hear the question on repeat, I know there is something else going on. And one thing I know for sure, time after time, is that this question does nothing to move your marriage or yourself forward. It is actually an anchor to the past. And it is hard to move forward when you are anchored backward. If you want to save your marriage, stop asking how you got here, and start asking how to get to where you want to go! (I cover it in-depth in the podcast episode.  Listen below.) RELATED RESOURCES: The Save The Marriage System The Husband Bootcamp Book:  How to Save Your Marriage in 3 Simple Steps