9/21/23 - Dating Fatigue: Tinder Bender

The complexities of ‘burn out’ or ‘social anxiety’ are not always what they seem; many have the former from the lack of meaningful work, not work itself; many have the latter due to social constraints promoted by the media. One the biggest fears for men talking to women nowadays is not rejection, but coming off as predator. We live within the confines of a culture which preaches mental illness like it’s a virtue, and the result is that everyone is defective. It is rarely discussed, but the same ideology driving the former has also driven birth control since the 1960s, based on the notion that pregnancy is a disease to be eradicated. For the first time ever we began striving to stop pregnancy rather than acquire divine assistance in getting pregnant. Little fertility figures and ritual fertility rites have been replaced with worship of abortion-demons and abortion clinics. The ideology most obsessed with all of these things is eugenics. Objectively speaking, the consequences of birth control led to “aids”, unexpected pregnancies since the BC doesn’t always work, decline in family values, damaged children, and a general sense of being used once the honeymoon phase is over. The idea that we can have unlimited options, partners, and sex is strongly opposed to all of human history and must, at least, have some manner of serious psychological consequences. This, particularly along with Dating Apps, leads to a depressing cycle of possibility, potential, dopamine, and then a loss in self confidence and self esteem; furthermore, a lack of social cohesion, excessive self deception, and outright lying. The result is we no longer confront our issues or express our desires, because we can hide behind a screen, and thus the popular method of ghosting emerges - all of this is compounded by a heavy dose of scamming. The reality is this for sex: women have more options, but this comes with heavier consequences and responsibility. Men have less options, and this comes with less consequences. It's the same with orgasm. Introducing birth control means women have more options and less consequences. Introducing social justice class warfare means men have less options and more consequences - which leads to incoherency and imbalance for both. Women are more emotional and nurturing, while men are more physical and providing. These are general rules of biology and society which are mutually beneficial. The consequences of BC, conceptually, dissolves such things. The idea that dating is patriarchal is the most ridiculous thing that anyone has ever uttered about sex. The argument goes like this: women want to be with men and that gives men all the power, men want to date only younger women, women get unsolicited pictures, and women have to raise kids alone with no support. BUT… men also want to be with women and that gives women a sense of the same power (especially because they carry the primary means of reproduction), men don’t always want to date younger women despite the fact that women usually want to date older men (maturity), on most dating apps half of the women are already almost naked and that is solicitation for at least some of the penis pics, and lastly, if we didn’t do away with marriage women would have support to raise those kids! Nothing is more patriarchal than telling the entire human race that housework is bad, women should work for a giant company that doesn’t care about them, that she should lay on her back for childbirth, and that men are evil but here is a pill that lets you have sex with as many as you can with no consequences. To deny womanhood is misogynistic and to deny manhood is misandry. Since we love these words so much, then to neglect committed relationships is by definition misogamy.None of this even accounts for the consequences of birth control in the form of emotional swings, severe cramps, bloating, acne, sleep...