THE PARADOX OF PEOPLE-PLEASING

Does being a people pleaser put you in a position where you're more likely to encounter financially and emotionally manipulative men? Are we conflating kindness with codependency? What do we gain from putting men's sexual needs above our own? Why are people accepting 'nap/shower dates' from men? In this episode, Chidera visits her past as a former 'pick me' (aka desperate dater), the pitfalls of financially sponsoring men who will spend your money on other women, signing legally-binding documents with crooked men, letting men use your car/address to do shady shit, referring to yourself as a 'easy down-ass chick' when really, you're scared men won't pick you... Pre-order my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER here: https://geni.us/pocketpower (Out November 2023)! Get the Patriarchy's Worst Nightmare hoodie here: https://patriarchysworstnightmare.com/collections/garms/products/their-worst-nightmare

Om Podcasten

As the manosphere rises and men continue to terrorise us, how will you decide what your own happy ending looks like? Join Chidera Eggerue aka The Slumflower on her debut, much-awaited podcast The Slumflower Hour - the domain for disobedient women who date men! Is he really 'busy' or is he bored of you? Do you have the patience to practise your own boundaries? Should you follow your instincts or should you follow your impulses? Watch and listen to The Slumflower Hour every Friday! WARNING: This podcast might just be your man's worst nightmare, beware...