Ep. 193 - The Doctor Is In Series - Shame, The Good The Bad And The Coping

Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Doctor Is In Series – where we will discuss understandings and developments in the field of psychology.   In today’s episode, Chris and Abbie are discussing: Shame. We will talk about how shame helps us, hinders us, why some people can deal with it and why some can’t. We’ll also discuss various coping strategies and more.  [Jan 02, 2023]   00:00 – Intro 00:17 – Dr. Abbie Maroño Intro 00:55 – Intro Links Social-Engineer.com- http://www.social-engineer.com/ Managed Voice Phishing- https://www.social-engineer.com/services/vishing-service/ Managed Email Phishing- https://www.social-engineer.com/services/se-phishing-service/ Adversarial Simulations- https://www.social-engineer.com/services/social-engineering-penetration-test/ Social-Engineer channel on SLACK- https://social-engineering-hq.slack.com/ssb CLUTCH- http://www.pro-rock.com/ org- http://www.innocentlivesfoundation.org/ 03:38 – The topic of the day: Shame                                                   05:44 – Is there a positive side to shame?                                                       07:29 – Directed by beliefs                                                     09:02 – Cultural differences                                                   10:14 – Shame's functionality                                                11:16 – Societal stigma                                             12:35 – How shame can hinder                                             16:36 – Literal shutdown                                                        19:30 – Emotional Blunting                                                    22:15 – Guilt vs Shame: Sense of Self                                                 24:14 – Those who can, cope!                                               26:54 – When shame is a symptom                                                    28:09 – Finding a support network                                                     30:03 – The "core" of shame                                                  33:45 – The road to Mindfulness                                                         37:20 – Environmental Shame                                               38:34 – Horrifically fascinating                                              41:06 – You have to get out there!                                                      43:00 – Tips for our younger listeners                                                45:25 – Remember Pen Pals?                                                 46:44 – Wrap Up                                                        47:39 – Outro social-engineer.com innocentlivesfoundation.org     Find us online: Twitter: https://twitter.com/abbiejmarono LinkedIn: com/in/dr-abbie-maroño-phd-35ab2611a Twitter: https://twitter.com/humanhacker LinkedIn: com/in/christopherhadnagy   References: Burkitt, I. 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