Betty Martin: Sexual Surrogacy and Getting to Know Pleasure

Dr. Betty Martin has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor, and upon retiring from that practice, as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator. Today on The Soul of Life I speak with Betty about the importance of getting to know your own body and your own sexuality. “My sexuality and eroticism belongs to me. It was such a shock. It made me think, “Who did I think it belonged to [before]?” We talk about the rewards and controversy of sexual surrogacy. While it’s not a mainstream intervention in sex therapy, its one that Betty says is widely misunderstood and can be highly valuable. Betty shares about one of her favorite exercises, called The Three Minute Game, that helps resolve confusion around giving and receiving pleasure. At first blush it sounds like something you’d hear about at a swing party. And Betty teaches about the power of slowing down your attention and learning how to trust your whole body’s sensory experience. Betty Martin's new book is called The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent. Enter my current sweepstakes giveaway (https://swee.ps/lZirCOTlY): Win a Couples Vacation to the Caribbean ($1,299 Value!). Ends 10/15/21 1. All inclusive airfare for two 2. Two night stay included Check out my Mini-Course for couples: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLHjcz6Ly2y9gr2mtMHIxu-fXXl8rE_PYJ Learn more about my 7-week, live, online basic mindfulness and IFS course for couples: https://souloflifeshow.com/mindful-marriage Join my Facebook Group called "Bring Love Alive:" https://www.facebook.com/groups/601405257684922 My Book, Love Under Repair: How to Save Your Marriage and Survive Couples Therapy https://amzn.to/2X3kPBL My Counseling Practice: https://keithmillercounseling.com Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SoulOfLifeShow or Twitter: https://twitter.com/SoulofLifeShow ​ Want to book Keith as a guest on your podcast? Contact him at [email protected].