104. The Dead Bedroom Fix: A Conversation with “Dad Starting Over”
The Suzanne Venker Show - A podcast by suzanne venker

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DSO is the pen name for Ralph, the founder of dadstartingover.com, host of the Dad Starting Over Podcast, and author of three books including his popular title, “The Dead Bedroom Fix”. The Dad Starting Over website is a resource for men that are “starting over” in life after divorce, after enduring a wife’s affair… or for those men who are still married and want to hit the reset button on their relationship, find their place in life, and finally do things the “right” way. In 2020, Ralph started the DSO Fraternity, which is the members-only portion of dadstartingover.com. Members get access to Fraternity articles, podcasts, all of the DSO books, members-only discussion forums and live member meetings that take place three to four times per week. All of the member meetings are archived and available to listen via your podcast app. DSO Fraternity members also get big discounts on one-on-one coaching with any of the five DSO coaches. Listeners of the Suzanne Venker show can go to dadstartingover.com/venker and you will get your first month of DSO Fraternity membership for $1. Try it out to see if it is right for you. Cancel at any time. Sorry ladies, the group is for men only. Ralph has three children from his first marriage and a new one on the way soon with his second wife, Nathalie. IN THIS EPISODE: 7:00 Men needs are simpler than women's 9:00 Women are great at validation at the beginning of their relationships 10:00 Many woman stop having sex with their husbands, especially once children come along 11:15 Women also complain of lack of sex. Men's porn habits and loss of testosterone contribute to this 12:00 Women need to continue to work on their appearance, be more agreeable, and nag less 17:00 Men need a helping hand when it comes to figuring out how to get their relationships back on track 17:35 DSO tells his story of his first marriage and his ex-wife's extra-marital affair 22:00 Suzanne reads from DSO’s book: "The Dead Bedroom Fix": Why your wife isn’t attracted to you 23:00 Why is the fault of the “dead bedroom” on the man? 24:25 Someone has to the lead in the romance department 28:50 What DOESN'T work when it comes to fixing a dead bedroom 30:00 Men and women both need to revert to what they did when they were dating 33:00 Why being “ nice” doesn’t get a man sex 34:40 Men have to both be a lover and provider 35:00 Many marriages have been flat-out ruined by kids 35:45 What makes a man HOT to a woman? 37:50 Don’t shame a woman for not “feeling it” in the moment 39:40 What men can do to fix a dead bedroom Be her lover Go to the gym & care about your appearance Go away - you need to get the hell away from each other! Be unique: What's your mission outside of being a dad or husband? You MUST lead and set the tone in the relationship as far as romance and sexuality Get your wife away from the kids