117. The Roots of Adolescents' Mental-Health Crisis: Erica Komisar

Are you struggling to raise emotionally healthy, resilient adolescents in this fast-paced, ever-changing world? America has an epidemic of mental health disorders in adolescents that has made parenting even more challenging, but parents can still have an enormous impact on the health and well-being of their children. In her new book, Chicken Little: The Sky Isn't Falling, Erica Komisar offers parents the tools they need to navigate this tumultuous time of change and create a continuous deep connection with their children. Erica is a psychoanalyst and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for over 30 years. She's also the author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters. 7:00  Teenagers still need their parents' guidance, even though teens tend to push their parents away   8:40  Covid exacerbated mental health issues and distress in younger people   11:30  There's a tremendous amount of sacrifice involved if you're going to raise and care for children well   13:40  We have placed more emphasis on money and career success than on caring for children   16:30  The best way to help quell the mental health crisis in children and adolescents is to prevent it from developing   19:00  Our society is achievement focused, rather than focused on emotional health, etc.   19:30  We “check out” of our children’s lives and simultaneously expect them to achieve more   20:00  Poverty can cause depression and so can affluence—in the same way.   22:00  Erica talks about her new book, Chicken Little.   23:00  At its root, anxiety is fear   24:00  The push for early independence is backfiring   24:30  The internet and social media has had a corrosive impact on the mental health of adolescence   27:30  Video games and tech additions are symptoms of anxiety and depression   31:40  Parents must be present during adolescence   34:00  You cannot protect your adolescent from pain and frustration, but it is a parents job to help them process it   35:00  Too many choices cause problems   38:35  We help shape our children’s identity over time. Parenting is also about helping your children take things OFF their plate.   41:00  Women/Girls get the message about having to “be something” more than boys/men   42:00 - PARENTS MATTER! 𝗕𝘂𝘆 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗚𝗲𝘁 𝗛𝗶𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗱 (𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝗛𝗶𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗱) 𝗡𝗢𝗪: https://amzn.to/38naFOL Want to be as successful in love as you are at life? Go to http://www.suzannevenker.com and 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝟯 𝗙𝗥𝗘𝗘 𝗲𝗕𝗼𝗼𝗸𝘀 to begin your journey! 𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝘂𝗽 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲: https://www.suzannevenker.com/relationship-coaching/ 𝗪𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻'𝘁 𝗱𝗼 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁! 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗮 𝗣𝗮𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝘂𝘇𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗲 𝗩𝗲𝗻𝗸𝗲𝗿 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘄:  https://www.patreon.com/thesuzannevenkershow