84. FOR MEN ONLY: How to Navigate a Successful Marriage & a Meaningful Life: E. Paul Allerton

Believe it or not, many men today are just as interested in having a happy marriage as are women, and they’re actually great at becoming true partners in creating a great marriage. But: they need guidance. Too many men grew up in homes where a father was absent physically or emotionally. As a result, men often have faulty beliefs about what makes for a good marriage. In The Essential Guide for The Married Man, E. Paul Allerton provides the kind of wisdom many men wish they had gotten from a loving and knowledgeable father or grandfather. At the end of the day, navigating a successful marriage and a meaningful life comes down to your ability to lead yourself and then your ability to lead your family based on your actions. A man’s purpose determines the qualities of character he must develop. In order to serve his purpose, he must consciously choose and master the attitude and self-discipline necessary to navigate the storms of life. Paul Allerton is Director of www.themarriedman.net, a site providing men with resources to be great husbands and fathers. Over the past 25 years, Paul has coached hundreds of men, restoring dozens of marriages to thriving and loving relationships. He has been married for more than 35 years and has six children. IN THIS EPISODE: 6:50  Suzanne reads an email from a listener who wants her man to step up 9:25  60% of men grow up without fathers in the house or their fathers “go along to get along” 11:00  Paul talks about his own marriage of 37 years, raising six children, growing up in a broken home 12:25  #1: Know where you are going and what you are doing, in your life and career 15:00  Life is not about being happy; it’s about what you can give and contribute 15:30  American men lack purpose 16:10  Suzanne and Paul discuss the Boy Scouts and why it was so good for building strong men 18:30  Suzanne and Paul discuss the Attitude Assessment Tool The Quitter: “It's someone else's fault, and I’m not going to do anything about it” Procrastinators: A lot of modern men are procrastinators Along for the ride: They are not causing problems, but they are waiting for their wives to tell them what to do. They’re not doing damage, but they're irrelevant. 21:00  Never use any one action or inaction as an excuse for your own shortcomings 22:00  The moment a woman steps in to do a man’s job, the man will back up and let her 22:37  Doubt will paralyze a man 23:00  A man’s career is not a privilege; it is their way to provide and protect. Women have lost the appreciation for that 23:45  After mastering your attitude and doing what they need to do, despite whether they want to.  Men also should have a daily discipline. Any muscle that you exercise will get stronger. 26:20  Purpose can be as simple as just wanting to provide and protect your family 27:20  Parents are responsible. Parents are acting like children expecting their children to act like adults 40:30  Women who are scared control their environment 41:10  Almost 100% of the time women nag, control and yell it's because of FEAR 43:30  Men care deeply and make huge sacrifices because they care 43:40  Worry about yourself and your wife to become soft. Focus on being disciplined, committed and generous. AND MORE!