85. No, Love Is NOT Enough to Make a Family: Katy Faust

You probably know the adult viewpoints on marriage, infertility, reproductive technologies, same-sex parenting, divorce, and adoption. But have you ever considered these matters from the kids’ perspective? In her new book, Them Before Us, Katy Faust flips the script on adult-centric attitudes toward marriage, parenthood, and reproductive technologies by framing these issues around a child’s right to be raised by both their mother and father. Set against a backdrop of sound research, the compelling stories throughout each chapter confirm that a child’s mental, physical, and emotional well-being depends on being loved by the two people responsible for their existence. It’s a paradigm shift that will impact the personal and the political, and reframe every marriage and family conversation across the globe. If you’re tired of a culture that views adults as victims in family matters, when it’s clear the kids are the ones who truly pay the price, this podcast episode is for you. IN THIS EPISODE: 2:30  The 3 staples of a child’s emotional diet 3:30  One out of every two children is growing up without one of their biological parents 4:00  The gay marriage debate 6:30  The cost associated with speaking the truth 7:10  Them Before Us is a movement of ordinary adults who possess what academia, celebrities politicians do not have: courage 8:00  The Stories 12:00  The difference between adoption and reproductive technology 13:00  The lie that kids need only love and safety and that moms and dads are optional 14:50  Kids living with biological parents are the safest and most well cared for 15:00  An unrelated cohabitating man is the most dangerous person to a child 17:00  The problems with reproductive technology 19:00  Thinking “love” is enough is flimsy and immature Biology matters, marriage matters and gender matters 20:40  A “me” centric world and the courts have wreaked havoc in children’s lives 24:40  The lie that children are resilient and will "get over" their parents' divorce 25:30  Divorce is terrible, but remarriage is often worse 31:00  We are raising generations of emotionally “starved” children 31:20  Katy talks about her own experience with same sex parenting