7. WEDDINGS - "The Big Day"

Speeches and Bridesmaids and Aisles! Oh my! There is so much to get into in Episode 7 because we're finally getting into the icky traditions of the literal wedding day itself. First though, it's time to break down the build up! Why is it still often the woman's role to push the planning of the wedding? And on the day itself, are we still down with walking down the aisle with Daddy? As a modern woman, do you really believe in being "given away"? We offer our insight and advice on how we've incorporated the female voice into our weddings, giving a speech to the bride and the mother-of-the-bride. Finally, your The Thing About That hosts delve into the complexities of the bridal party and how you go about picking that select bunch of friends to aid you on the day. What does it mean to ask someone to be a bridesmaid or read at your wedding or even perform in the service, and how can you do that without burdening them unnecessarily or causing offence to others? Take a listen and then drop us a review or give us a cheeky star-rating! Also be sure to subscribe to make sure you don't miss our upcoming guest episodes, where we're talking to wedding planners, elopement photographers and, very excitingly, the husband elects: Ben, Jacob and Tris! Comment on our social media accounts with your questions and suggestions for future conversation: Follow us on twitter & Instagram: @TTAT_Podcast Follow us on facebook: @TheThingAboutThatPodcast Series 1, Episode 7 length: 42 mins 36 seconds Division of Labour (00:40) Is Wedding planning just more unpaid, unappreciated women's work? Emotional Labour (04:02) Why do women tend to take on this burden, even if they take on more of the financial responsibility too? Roles that are gender-driven VS personality-driven Know your partner's strengths and how to play to them. Top Wedding Day Traditions (12:23) Cutting the cake. Marriage certificates stemming from a patriarchal, business background. Speeches from the bride. Are brides still seen and not heard? Why do we still push the idea that your wedding day is "THE BEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE!"? Younger generations being selfish and selfless at the same time. Creating a religious and atheist wedding (19:25) What are the obligatory parts of a Church of England wedding? "Love, honour and obey" Walking down the aisle and being given away (22:05) The option to rid yourself of an aisle entirely. What if you have no father of paternal relationship? Speeches (28:15) Mother-of-the-bride speeches? Secular ceremonies (31:22) Have a friend as a celebrant. Readings and Abba singalongs! Bridesmaids (35:27) How do you pick your bridesmaids without causing offence? Accommodating changing friendships. Joint bridesmaids and ushers shared between the couple. Is it an unfair burden asking friends to perform? Thank you for listening!