Murphy's Law For Narcissistic Exes and Parents

When we apply Murphy’s Law to a narcissistic ex, we find that anything they can possibly jack with they will jack with. If there is a situation that they can make more difficult in order to gain attention, then they will. If there is an obvious decision that they can draw out and complicate, then they will to get their fix.We see this constantly. One time the narcissistic ex wants one thing when it is clearly inconvenient and impossible and then when the same thing is offered to them at a workable time, they don’t want it anymore. If there is an obvious decision that would benefit the kids, the narcissist ex finds some way to turn it into a circus with them in the center.The narcissist’s game is to make everyone wait on them. Everyone has to wait for them to reach their big decision and announce it to the world. They need to make sure everyone is watching. No one else can plan anything until the narcissist is ready, and then if they have a chance to reverse course and screw it all up, they will!If there is a sensible way to do things and a drama-producing way to do things, the narcissist will pick the path of greatest drama. If there’s a way to create delay and confusion, then that’s what the narcissist will unfailingly do.Of course, the flipside is when the narcissist makes unreasonable and inconvenient demands, then they want an answer immediately. They will throw a fit if they don’t get a clear answer right now and they will set ultimatums to harass and keep the attention on themselves. They will set deadlines and threaten litigation if you do not provide an immediate response to their nonsense. Typically, when you do provide a response, they will find a way to cause problems with that as well.If there is something a narcissist can get attention from, they will get attention from doing it. And if they can get attention from doing the opposite, they will get attention from that, too. If doing the sensible thing does not give them attention, they will avoid it like the plague.