Strength in Vulnerability with Sharon Crabbe

One of Sharon Crabbe’s most profound insights was that we don’t ever need fixing because we can never be broken. She now applies this understanding in her work with children, adults, and horses and recognizes that our strength often lies in our willingness to be vulnerable.Sharon Crabbe is a coach, mentor and educator. She is a Certified iheart Facilitator delivering the iheart curriculum in schools and 1-2-1 or small group tutoring, and is also a Natural Horsemanship trainer of horses and humans. You can find Sharon Crabbe at SharonJCrabbe.com and on Instagram @sharonjcrabbe.You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below. Show Notes* Learning about the inside-out understanding and bringing that into equine therapy * How we can’t be fixed because we’re not broken * How ‘acting out’ behaviour is a sign of our resilience * How urgency and anxiety can turn us into human doings rather than human beings * How so much of life comes down to the quality of our relationships, even when it comes to working with horsesResources Mentioned in this Episode* Get Sharon’s free ebook Lessen Your Stress here and uncover an entirely new perspective on stress: what causes it and what to do about it. * The Jack Prasky book Sharon mentions is Somebody Should Have Told Us * The iHeart program for young people * The Viva event in Spain Transcript of Interview with Sharon CrabbeAlexandra: Sharon Crabbe, welcome to Unbroken.Sharon: Hello. It’s really lovely to be here. I’m very happy to be here.Alexandra: I’m so pleased to have you. Thank you so much for coming. Tell us about your background and how you came to find the 3 Principles.Sharon: The common thread running throughout my whole life has been horses. I’ve done lots of other things, always as a last resort because I needed to earn some more money. But the horses have been the main thread really. About 20 years ago, more than that, I got into natural horsemanship, because before that I’d been very traditionally trained with the British Horse Society. I ended up going to the States and spending about two years out there studying with the cowboys, actually. Which was wonderful.That was a big change, because I went out there one person and came back somebody else completely. It was a huge transformation, quite late in life, because I was already in my 40s. But it was the beginning of me becoming more self-aware, I think. I saw a whole new way of what being with horses and working with horses. The big thing that happened was I realized that in order to be a good horsewoman, I had to change myself and it was nothing to do with changing the horses really. So that was really huge. And it’s a long story. So I’ll cut it short. I got interested in kind of in people. That took me into equine therapy. So assisted therapy, and that was pretty amazing. I started working with vulnerable, young, mostly young people. Throughout all this things were pretty good. But I always had a bit of a dark side, I had a problem with depression and anxiety. And I used to have these episodes which were really quite extreme.I put a brave face on it. So nobody really knew. But I did have some pretty bad times.