The Myth That Self-Hatred "Works"

When I was in High School I used to write letters of hate to myself to try and motivate myself to eat less and be skinnier. In a sense it did "work" because I lost weight. But if we look at the big picture it did more damage than good. I lost weight in a really unhealthy way, I gained the weight back quickly, and developed an unhealthy relationship with food. If you are working towards a goal you will have to face two things: rejection and mistakes. Self-love and compassion allows you to reco...