When It All Goes Wrong?

In this episode of Your Mind is Trying To Kill You Podcast, Artist/Hypnotherapist, Alexandros Megas and Business Coach, Vincent Byrne discuss what happens ‘When It All Goes Wrong!’ After several weeks of stress and overwhelm, Vincent admitted that he needed to do something to get back on track and the whole experience inspired the subject matter for this episode. The guys discuss an idea that they have mentioned before - the fact that an event, occurrence or incident, is neutral in and of itself. It is the meaning that we attribute to it that causes the emotional response, and thus, the problem. How does this happen? Well, when something occurs, the subconscious mind searches through its ‘archives’ and locates an event that is similar and takes its guidance on what it should do now from how it handled that situation back then. Now, that is all well and good, in theory, however a problem arises when the previous incident is something that happened many years before, perhaps in childhood, and in reality bears very little resemblance to the current situation. As a result the ‘guidance’ that the subconscious receives is useless at best and detrimental, at worst, in dealing with the current situation. This is what leads to crisis and creates the situation similar to what Vincent was facing recently. A common outcome for all of us. So, how do we break this misguided automated response of the subconscious? The guys discuss a simple strategy that Alexandros recommends to his clients. He teaches them to ask a few simple questions - ‘What just happened?’, ‘Is it positive or negative?’, ‘Why is it positive or negative?’ and ‘What is the worst thing that could happen?’ The questioning process effectively jams a stick in the wheel of our initial automated emotional response, restores calm and balance and allows us to choose our response. There are two significant benefits to this approach - one, we have a more considered response to the current situation and two, we start to create a new ‘archive’ for the subconscious to refer to in the future. It's another good conversation with lots of relevant and interesting discussion and some useful tools, so listen up and enjoy!