135: 5 reasons respectful parenting is so hard

This episode grew out of a post that long-time friend of the podcast, Dr. Laura Froyen, published in a respectful parenting group that we both work in as admins.  In the post she asked people to share how they felt before and after they discovered respectful parenting, and then she created a word cloud of the results.   The words in the 'before' cloud were perhaps predictable - things like 'worried,' 'overwhelmed,' 'resentful,' and 'guilty.'   And the most common word in the 'after respectful parenting' word cloud?   Exhausted.   What on earth is going on here?   In this episode I explore five important reasons why respectful parenting is so hard - and what to do about each of them.   Get notified when Setting Loving (& Effective!) Limits workshop reopens Are there times when your child doesn’t listen?   Do they stall, ignore you, refuse to do the things you ask…and then look you right in the eye while doing the thing you asked them NOT to do?   Do you feel disrespected when your child does these things – but have no idea what to do about it because the one thing you KNOW is that you don’t want to treat your child the same way your parents treated you?   If so, the free Setting Loving (& Effective!) Limits workshop will help.   It’s newly expanded to eight days, to give you more time and support in using the new tools.   In the workshop, you’ll learn:   Why you’re setting too many limits right now (and the effect that has on your child) How to set effective limits that your child will respect The #1 strategy get on the same team as your child, so you’re working together instead of against each other How to decide when a limit is needed, then set and hold it with complete confidence The three best tools to get you out of those “I really don’t want to die on this hill” situations where it seems like you can’t back down How to have a great relationship with your child – without being a permissive parent The repeatable four-step process that will help you to meet both of your needs in ANY difficult situation that comes up   After just eight days, you’ll be on a path to: Dramatically reducing your child’s most challenging behaviors to make life infinitely easier Having a peaceful, collaborative relationship with your child, which creates time for the fun parts of parenting Helping your child to develop skills they’ll use to solve problems with siblings and peers – so you don’t have to be the referee anymore!   Are you ready for parenting to be easier?  Just click the banner below!         Parenting Beyond Power   The wait is over! I'm thrilled to announce that Parenting Beyond Power is now available for you to explore. Discover practical insights and fresh...