103 Episodes

  1. Episode 22: When Culture, Religion & Domestic Violence Meet: How to partner with survivors when their communities or religious leaders have adopted coercive control and violence.

    Published: 8/31/2020

  2. Episode 21: Listening to the Voices of Children and Young People Harmed by Fathers Who Choose Violence: An interview with Professor Cathy Humphreys and Dr. Katie Lamb

    Published: 8/21/2020

  3. Episode 20: Partnering with Survivors Using Restorative Practices: An interview with Dr. Eloise Sepeda

    Published: 8/19/2020

  4. Episode 19: 9 Ways to Collude with a Person Who Chooses Violence

    Published: 7/30/2020

  5. Episode 18: Survivors aren't Broken! An intimate discussion about support and partnership in relationships impacted by trauma histories

    Published: 7/17/2020

  6. Special Episode: Charlie Webster Undiscussible on Talk Radio: Recognizing Spiritual and Domestic Abuse

    Published: 7/8/2020

  7. Episode 17: Choose to Change: Your Behavior, Your Choice’: A new community-based men’s behavior change toolkit

    Published: 6/18/2020

  8. Episode 16: Family and Friends Guide: How to be an ally to a loved one who is being abused

    Published: 5/4/2020

  9. Episode 15: Coercive Control, Entrapment & Isolation: An interview with Luke & Ryan Hart

    Published: 4/25/2020

  10. Episode 14: Caring for self while caring for others: An interview with Laura van Dernoot Lipksy

    Published: 4/2/2020

  11. Episode 13: Mapping domestic violence perpetrator's use of COVID-19 pandemic to increase coercive control

    Published: 3/24/2020

  12. Episode 12: COVID-19: Helping families impacted by domestic abuse in a time of crisis

    Published: 3/20/2020

  13. Episode 11: Getting Inside the Mind of Men who Use Violence

    Published: 3/15/2020

  14. Episode 10: Lived Experience Episode with Ryan Hart and the Y Change Team, Berry Street

    Published: 2/28/2020

  15. Episode 9: "My daughter is being abused and I don't know what to say:" The friends and family episode

    Published: 2/21/2020

  16. Episode 8: Male Parental Development and how Father's Parenting Choices Matter

    Published: 2/9/2020

  17. Episode 7: Torture Tactics, How Coercive Control is Similar to Torture in its Methods and Impact on Victims

    Published: 2/6/2020

  18. Episode 6: Gender, Power Dynamics and Abuse

    Published: 2/5/2020

  19. Episode 5: Professional Safety & Trauma

    Published: 1/30/2020

  20. Episode 4: Gender Double Standards

    Published: 1/23/2020

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These podcasts are a reflection of Ruth & David’s ongoing conversations, which are both intimate and professional and touch on complex topics like how systems fail victims and children, how victims experience those systems, and how children are impacted by those failures. Their discussions delve into how society views masculinity and violence and how intersectionalities such as cultural beliefs, religious beliefs and unique vulnerabilities impact how we respond to abuse and violence. These far-ranging discussions offer an insider look into how we navigate the world as professionals, as parents and as partners. During these podcasts, David & Ruth challenge the notions that keep all of us from moving forward collectively as systems, as cultures and as families into safety, nurturance and healing. Note: Some of the topics discussed in the episodes are deeply personal and sensitive, which may be difficult for some people. We occasionally use mature language. We often use gender pronouns like “he” when discussing perpetrators and “she” for victims. While both men and women can be abusive and controlling, and domestic abuse happens in straight and same-sex relationships, the most common situation when it comes to coercive control is a male perpetrator and a female victim. Men's abuse toward women is more closely associated with physical injury, fear and control. Similarly, very different expectations of men and women as parents and the focus of Safe & Together on children in the context of domestic abuse make it impossible to make generic references to gender when it comes to parenting. The Model, through its behavioral focus on patterns of behavior, is useful in identifying and responding to abuse in all situations, including same-sex couples and women's use of violence. We think our listeners are sophisticated enough to understand these distinctions. Have an idea for a podcast? Tell about it here: https://share.hsforms.com/1l329DGB1TH6AFndCFfB7aA3a1w1