111. The Hidden Costs of Loneliness: Why Connection is Essential for Mental Health

Welcome back everyone! In today’s episode, I’m diving deep into the power of connection with my guest, psychologist Dr. Adam Dorsay. Adam and I unpack how modern life isn’t exactly helping—our society is more “connected” than ever (hello, social media), yet we’re lonelier and more anxious. We talk about why emotional literacy is key, how early trauma (especially for men) can make it hard to express feelings, and why stuffing emotions down like an overpacked suitcase never really works. We also get into the good stuff—what actually helps. Think: activities that get you into a flow state, the unconditional love of pets, and simple ways to build real, meaningful connections. Plus, Adam shares some gems from his book Super Psyched that you won’t want to miss. So if anxiety has been your unwanted sidekick, this episode is for you. Let’s break the cycle—one real connection at a time. Thank you for listening and you can find me on IG: @theanxietymd if you have any questions. PS. If you would like to join the MBRX family of 4500+ anxiety WARRIORS who are shifting from coping with their anxiety to actually HEALING it, click the link below: https://www.theanxietymd.com/MBRX To explore more of Dr. Dorsay’s work, check out the links below: https://dradamdorsay.com Instagram: @dradamdorsay ______________________________ TIMESTAMPS  00:00 Introduction to Anxiety and Connection 02:58 The Importance of Connection in Healing 05:52 Men, Competition, and Connection 08:57 Emotional Literacy and Its Impact on Men 11:56 The Cycle of Pain and Connection 14:58 Authenticity and Self-Connection 17:53 Connecting with Others and the World 21:06 Faith, Trust, and Overcoming Trauma 24:02 Cultural Insights on Connection 26:55 The Role of Banter and Flow in Connection 33:43 The Dynamics of Connection and Conflict 34:56 The Role of Substances in Emotional Connection 35:52 Navigating Medication and Emotional Numbness 36:49 Personal Growth Through Medication and Therapy 38:21 The Impact of Trauma on Sensitivity 39:00 The Importance of Perceived Support 40:54 Loneliness and Its Consequences 41:59 Understanding Sensitivity and Resilience 43:50 The Power of Connection in Healing 46:28 Finding Faith in Uncertainty 48:01 The Dangers of Doom Scrolling 49:25 Creating More Than We Consume 52:08 Listening to Our Inner Child 55:16 The Healing Power of Pets 58:49 The Role of Music and Flow in Connection 01:01:56 Finding Your Flow and Connection