Too Much, Too Fast, Then Gone | BPD & Unstable Relationships

Why do our relationships start like soulmates and end in emotional wreckage? In this episode, we unpack the rollercoaster of unstable relationships, a core (and exhausting) symptom of Borderline Personality Disorder*.We explore how early attachment wounds, abandonment fears, and emotional dysregulation play out in love, friendship, and everything in between. We talk about everything from the favorite person, to splitting, to personal stories, discussing what really happens when connection feels like survival.Because when love feels like life or death... it’s not just dramatic. It’s BPD.Trigger Warning: We talk about emotional intensity, emotional and physical abuse, rejection, and attachment distress. Take care and pause if you need to.🌱 Have questions, stories, or something you'd like us to cover? We’d love to hear from you. Email us at ⁠[email protected]⁠ and let’s keep the conversation going.📩 For support on your BPD recovery journey with DBT-based skills and Mindfulness practices, email me for a free 30-Minute Consultation: ⁠[email protected]⁠ or check out the website: www.bpdsupport.org🎧 Looking for guided meditations made for emotional regulation, BPD, and more? Check out our YouTube channel Empowered Heroes for free meditations created with love and care: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@Empoweredheroes⁠Also available on ⁠Spotify at Empowered Heroes Meditations⁠.*If you or someone you care about may be experiencing symptoms of BPD, know that you’re not alone. Support is out there, and reaching out to a mental health professional can be a powerful first step. Recovery is possible.📚 Referenced research includesDaley, S. E., Burge, D., & Hammen, C. (2000). Borderline personality disorder symptoms as predictors of 4-year romantic relationship dysfunction in young women: addressing issues of specificity. Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 109(3), 451.Donegan, N. H., Sanislow, C. A., Blumberg, H. P., Fulbright, R. K., Lacadie, C., Skudlarski, P., ... & Wexler, B. E. (2003). Amygdala hyperreactivity in borderline personality disorder: implications for emotional dysregulation. Biological Psychiatry, 54(11), 1284–1293.Fonagy, P., Leigh, T., Steele, M., Steele, H., Kennedy, R., Mattoon, G., & Target, M. (2000). Attachment theory and borderline personality disorder. Psychoanalytic Inquiry, 20(4), 828–859.Gunderson, J.G., & Lyons-Ruth, K. (2008). BPD and attachment: A developmental perspective. The Psychiatric Clinics of North America, 31(3), 457–471.Gunderson, J. G., Weinberg, I., & Choi-Kain, L. (2013). Borderline personality disorder. Focus, 11(2), 129-145.Kernberg, O. F. (1984). Severe personality disorders: Psychotherapeutic strategies. Yale University Press.South, S. C., Oltmanns, T. F., & Krueger, R. F. (2008). Relationship dysfunction in personality disorders: A meta-analysis of findings. Journal of Personality Disorders, 22(1), 89–104.