Transforming Conflict with Jonathan Miller

“We make this fundamental mistake where we attribute bad intentions to people. What we often think is that rather than thinking about that fact that somebody acted a certain way or did a thing because of maybe an environmental circumstance, we’re more likely to think it’s because of who they are and that they intended poorly on you. That is a fundamental error, and it’s actually usually the circumstance.” - Jonathan Miller Conflict is something we deal with everyday in all aspects of our lives, which is why I think this episode is going to be so relevant to all listeners. Today’s Brave By Design guest became fascinated with communication, and he shares how that fascination translated into his work of transforming conflict into healthy collaborative relationships.Jonathan Miller is a conflict transformation coach, and he has spent hundreds of hours in deliberate communication practice and stretching himself outside of his comfort zone. He is a former program leader at Landmark Worldwide and is in the process of becoming a Certified Professional Coach through Erickson Coaching International. Jonathan has done extensive training in Nonviolent Communication and is also a dedicated Vipassana meditation practitioner, having spent well over 2,000 hours meditation in the past few years. His coaching style is rigorous, compassionate and highly action-oriented. What Jonathan reveals in this episode will provide practical and actionable ways that you can start improving your conversation with others around you and reduce conflict - starting today. Connect with Jonathan: https://www.mindfulcommunication.me/Get the free video series on The Five Habits That Help Women Rise:http://bravebydesign.net/fivehabitsLearn more about working with Laura one-on-one:https://www.bravebydesign.net/private-coachingInvite Laura to speak at your live or virtual event https://www.bravebydesign.net/work-togetherConnect with Laura Khalil online:instagram.com/iambravebydesignlinkedIn.com/in/LauraKhalilWhat You’ll Hear In This Episode: How a personal endeavor led Jonathan on a journey into the world of communication [3:03]What he says is the unpredictable area of conflict [7:41]Different techniques to use instead of just “fight or flight” when dealing with conflict [9:20]What is a “Fundamental Attribution Error” and why it almost always affects our mindset going into conversations with others [13:52] Tips and strategies to prepare for a conversation about conflict while clarifying your intentions [20:14]What a partnership mindset is all about and how it can aid in your communication  [25:43]Additional Links & Resources:Sign up for Jonathan’s 4-Part Video Training SeriesHis Tough Talks Made Easy Personal Coaching Session (Receive 50% off PROMO CODE: Brave50 on your next 45-minute call) Mindful Communication PodcastThomas Kilmann Conflict ModelSupport the show