20. It is Happening For You, Not To You - Building Resilience In A World of Change

What would happen if we could trust that the chaotic tower moments were our divinely lit turning points for our own evolution? How much faster would we grow to see the sun if we could know that it would always rise again, after even the darkest of days? 

How many blessings in disguise have you uncovered? How many bullets have you dodged? How many times have you looked back at yourself in shambles of the past, and wanted to whisper in your ear from your present-day self, “Just wait, you don’t know what’s in store for you.” 

We don’t know what we don’t know, and we never will until the time comes, where we realize with gratitude how divinely led our bumps in the road were. Forehead Kisses From the Universe - that is what those life-altering moments are.------- 

This episode begins with an expression of gratitude for each & every one of you who've supported & given me your beautiful insights into the podcast thus far!! If I spoke to you 1:1 this week over Instagram, thank you! If not and you're listening anyways, thank you! I discuss how Episode 20 went awry, recording an hour and a half on a different topic and then losing it all, and how I used this as an opportunity to decide how I was going to feel and surrender into redirection, instead of allow an unexpected event to control the rest of my day. I talk at length about: 1. The three steps to building resilience in the face of change or inconvenience:

- Recognition & Acknowledgement - feeling what you need to feel, - Surrendering & Accepting - it is what it is,- & Deciding how to move forward - it is what I make it& The ways I experimented with this for this episode.2. How to change your perspective with a simple question your brain will automatically try to answer: "How is this a good thing?" & a challenge for you to implement this in your life this week as unexpected bumps in the road occur, no matter how big or small. 3. How our perspective shapes how we see unexpected change and pain in our lives & how to empower yourself into the freedom of surrender 4. How this Podcast began in the face of a "Tower Moment" & how I have learned throughout my life how to turn pain into opportunity ---- I invite you to survey your life and all of the moments that felt impossible to get through, and ask yourself how they were blessings in disguise, what you have or can learn from them, and how they made you a stronger version of who you are today.I invite you to begin this practice by starting small, with the minor inconveniences that occur in your day-to-day, and see how much resilience you can build with the simple question "How is this a good thing?"Feel free to share with me your experience on socials!IF YOU LIKED THIS EPISODE, PLS LEAVE A REVIEW x RATE THE PODCAST X TELL ME YOUR THOUGHTS <3Spiritual & Self-Help Advice -> TikTok: butterflyfountainPodcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfYoutube:  @figuringshitout (Vanessa Fontana / Butterfly Fountain) Books Referenced: Untethered Soul, Michael J Singer