How to Build a Marriage That Lasts: Insights From Our Conversation With Deevo

Sharla and Robert are on the hot seat today as Deevo from “A Little Impolite” Podcast questions them on all things marriage, divorce, infidelity, substance abuse,  childhood trauma, and even religion.It’s clear by the numbers on success rate that Marriage isn’t always easy. Here are some that are discussed on this episode:Since the early 1900s, the average age of first marriage has risen to 28 for women and 30 for men, compared to 21 for women and 24 for men historically.Cohabitation before marriage has increased over 900% in the last 50 years.In 1960, 72% of all adults were married, but by 2000 that number dropped to 50%.The percentage of children living with two parents declined from 80-88% to 69% in the early 2000s.Contempt is the number one predictor of divorce.The landscape of marriage is changing. With over 30 years of marriage under their own belts, Sharla and Robert provide a wealth of wisdom from their experiences helping countless couples.For anyone questioning the meaning of marriage or seeking to strengthen their own relationship, this episode offers meaningful takeaways and insights. Sharla and Robert demonstrate how communication, mutual understanding, and personal development are keys to finding fulfillment, whether married or not.Tune in if you dare be challenged.“The beauty of this thing is that she will help me, my partner will help me to become a better person, by uncovering some of that crap that I need to deal with. Then I can learn to grow, and I can learn how to get past it.” - Robert“I think a lot of us use our kids as a way to not deal with this stuff in our relationship. It's a little bit of a scapegoat. And that's not a good thing. There's a way to do both. There is a way to create an actual win-win. And that's not a win-win.” - SharlaIn this Episode:There is no one-size-fits-all approach.How we handle disagreements and conflicts says a lot about the health of a relationship.Being able to understand each other's perspectives, regulate emotions and compromise are important skills.Unresolved childhood trauma can unconsciously impact our adult behaviors if not addressed. Fulfilling long-term relationships takes ongoing communication, mutual understanding and a willingness from both partners to support each other through challenges. Personal development benefits individuals and the relationship.And so much more!Resources Mentioned:The Gottman Method - The couples therapy technique discussedMYM Resources:8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage - ​​https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/8-pillarsConnect with Deevo Tindall:Check out A Little Impolite HERELinkedIn -  https://www.linkedin.com/in/fusionphotog/ Instagram -