124 - Inauthenticity, Burnout, & Navigating Expectations with Consuelo Crosby

In today’s episode, we’re talking to Consuelo Crosby, a first-generation Latina, who shares her journey of navigating cultural expectations and finding her authentic voice. She discusses the challenges of being an immigrant and the pressure placed on women in her community. Consuelo talks about her career as a structural engineer and the struggle to balance societal expectations with her own dreams. For full show notes, head to⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠coachellyn.com/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and, of course, follow me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠OR check out my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube Channel⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for more! Keywords: first-generation, Latina, immigrant, cultural expectations, authenticity, structural engineer, societal pressure, burnout, podcast, boundaries, relationships, family, cultural expectations, first-generation daughters, generational differences, authenticity, joy, burnout, self-care Key Takeaways: Navigating cultural expectations can be challenging, especially for first-generation individuals. Societal pressure often places higher expectations on women, leading to a path that may not align with their authentic selves. Embracing authenticity is crucial for personal and professional fulfillment. Inauthenticity can contribute to burnout and dissatisfaction in life. Finding and nurturing one's true self is a journey that requires self-reflection and the courage to make choices that align with personal values and desires. Setting boundaries with loved ones is important for maintaining healthy relationships Cultural expectations can make it challenging to set boundaries, especially for first-generation daughters Knowing oneself and finding joy are key to making decisions that align with one's authentic self Burnout can be prevented by prioritizing self-care and listening to one's intuition Sounds Bites "The burden is on the women. The guys can do whatever they want. And guys get a free pass, but the women had high expectations put on them from a very young age." "Finding, discovering, encuentras your voice is all about finding that voice, becoming who you are, and we're listening. We will amplify it." "Inauthenticity can burn you out more than anything else." "I had to set a boundary with her because she kept making comments about my weight and how I was putting on too much weight and I was getting fat and blah, blah, blah, blah." "Boundaries are really difficult again. It goes back to first-gen daughters if you're the old daughter and you're the only daughter like I am that full burden and expectation is still placed on you." "What do I want to remember of myself in that situation? And I do have a high adrenaline rush. It is like rocket fuel. I was a single mom for 22 years raising two children." About Consuelo Crosby Consuelo Crosby thrives as a 1st generation Peruvian, solo female who disregarded the patriarchy and forged into structural engineering… in stilettos, but really wanted to be a record album cover artist.  But, you know Latina madres, “No! A doctor, lawyer or engineer!” 27 personalities rolled into one that bring insight, enthusiasm, humor and fearlessness to encourage Latinas to live their cultura out loud and on their terms. Website | www.lifelnxx.com IG | @encuestrasyourvoicePodcast | Encuentras Your Voice LinkedIn | Click Here LinkTree | Click Here