How to Build Secure Relationships in an Insecure World With Dr. Ann Kelley

What does it mean to interact in a secure way from a centered, wise space? According to Dr. Ann Kelley, co-author of Secure Relating and co-host of the popular podcast Therapist Uncensored, we all move in and out of secure and insecure patterns in our relationships. Ann’s modern take on attachment theory moves us from rigid categories into a more dynamic, evolving, and systemic look at our relational patterns.Listen and learn:What is the Modern Attachment Regulation SpectrumHow we borrow each other’s nervous systemsWhy sometimes it’s better to speak in sentences, not essaysThe difference between leaning “red,” “blue,” or “green” when it comes to relating with othersHow our nervous system is shaped by our environment, history, and contextJoin us in this episode to discover the key to secure relating: identifying your nervous system’s protective emotional reactions so you can find your way back to connection.Related ResourcesGet enhanced show notes for this episodeWant to become more psychologically flexible? Take Diana's on-demand course, "Foundations of ACT."Diana's EventsReserve your spot in Diana's Costa Rica retreat in 2025!See Diana at an upcoming eventConnecting With DianaSubscribe for free on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.Leave a 5-star review on Apple so people like you can find the show.Sign up for the free Wise Effort Newsletter.Become a Wise Effort member to support the show.Follow Diana on YouTube, Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, and Diana’s website.Leave feedback for the showThanks to the team, Craig and Ashley Hiatt, and Benjamin Gould of Bell & Branch for your beautiful music.We can put our energy where it matters most and savor the good along the way.